Archive for February 17, 2012


Links

I found some very awesome links today for worksheets for working the 12steps.  I am in desperate need of a sponsor – I have two ladies in mind in my home group.  Man I wasn’t this nervous when I asked my hubby to be my boyfriend back when I was 16!!  I need to put my big girl panties on and just ask….easier said then done.  People say it so nonchalantly.  “just get a sponsor.”  ummm – yeah, would LOVE to!

Anyways – here are the links:

http://jimrlong.org/index.php/pdf-12-step-worksheets

http://silkworth.net/zips/index.html

http://www.monroealanoclub.com/Resources___Links.html

http://thesponsorsaide.org/Downloads.htm

http://www.rewritables.net/cybriety/banner_&_image_gallery.htm

http://www.12stepclipart.50megs.com/

http://spot.colorado.edu/~hauserg/ArEmotList.htm

http://www.12step.org/tools/step-worksheets.html

http://thesponsorsaide.org/12StepWorksheets.htm

http://home.capecod.net/~rogerg/_RECOVERY.html

http://www.rc-rc.info/downloads.html

This is a 5 part Post on Co-dependency.

Part 1 of 5

Every time I mention to someone that I had a Co-dependency to my husband’s drinking they try to talk me out of thinking that way.  I found a list of patternsto help figure out if the co-dependency is there.  I was a little amazed looking through the list.  I had a few of these patterns, OK more like a lot of these patterns.

Panic attack

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Denial patterns:

  • I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
  • I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.
  • I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.
  • I lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
  • I label others with my negative traits.
  • I can take care of myself without any help from others.
  • I mask my pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.
  • I express negativity or aggression in indirect and passive ways.
  • I do not recognize the unavailability of those people to whom I am attracted.

I can say that I would try to hide my pain and I would isolate myself and then have anger and sadness for being alone.  I would take care of others before ever taking care of myself and didn’t want any help taking care of myself either.  I never wanted to feel helpless or that I needed someone that much.  I sure as heck didn’t want my husband to know the extent of the pain I was in all the time.  I never wanted him to think I was getting sick and then leave me.  I remember him saying a few times to me that my Dad was a strong person being right by my mom through all of her illness and that he is not sure he could do it.  Well hello panic!  I would have anxiety attacks about having to go to the hospital or the Dr for something cause he was going to run at any time, I would think to myself.  So instead I would just spend all of my time taking care of him and make sure he never knew I was in pain.

To be continued…

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