This is a 5 part Post on Co-dependency.
Part 4 of 5
Compliance patterns:
- I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger.
- I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
- I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
- I value others’ opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.
- I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.
- I accept sex and/or sexual attention when I want love.
- I am afraid to express my beliefs, opinions, and feelings when they differ from those of others.
- I make decisions without regard to the consequences.
- I give up my truth to gain the approval of others or to avoid change.
I knew that what was happening between my husband and I was getting bad, but I was at a loss as to how to fix it. I would just avoid him rather than talk about what was going on in my head. I could never talk about my feelings with him because it always was a fight or he would say what I was feeling was stupid. I was told by a few people that I should just leave him, I said you know what I took a vow. I took a vow to stay with him through sickness and in health, through good times and bad. I was willing to stay in a bad situation that was unhealthy for all parties due to that fact that I loved the other person and could not bear the thought of not being with him. When I reached my breaking point it had gotten so bad that I was not sure there was any way out of the hole we both had been frantically digging.
To be continued…
If no one has told you they love you today, I love you and God does too!
I have been gone for awhile and you’ve been busy. Thanks for this! It all helps! Kinda like hitting an ACOA meeting. 🙂