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The 3rd step is also the 3rd step in my little cha-cha dance.

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

We made a decision…  this says to me that it is truly up to me to make this choice.  I can choose to be sick and crazy, or I can choose to get better and ask for help from my higher power.  If I ask for help then I have to be willing to get out of the damn way so that He can do what He needs to do to help me. And it’s the care of God not the full control, not the ultimate fix all.  We still have to play a part in our lives, we just have to be willing to ask the right questions and listen to the answers.  It may not be what we want and it may not even be something that we understand at the very moment.  But it is there, if we ask for it.

If I ask for the ability to understand my husband, He is going to give me a situation where I have to be understanding.  If I want to forgive my husband, He will give me a situation where I will need to forgive.  If I ask to be more patient, He will give me a situation where I have to show patience.  He is not going to magically give me what I ask for, He is going to give me the tools to show myself that I have the ability to do it.  Al-Anon has shown me that when I asked for strength, He showed me that I am strong.

So as we start our step 3, remember that it is in this step that we learn that God is willing to show us what we already have inside us, if we are willing to trust Him and ask for His help.  It’s like asking for someone to take the blindfold off so you can look at your self for the first time.  You get to see all the wonderful things inside you that has been there the whole time, it was just hidden behind our own blockades.  We pulled off the blinders, we pulled back the shades…seeing the true self that is there by asking God for His help, we should be ready for the next step – Our personal inventory, but more on that next month.

If no one has told you they love you today, I love you and God does too.



Arts and crafts…

I have a very creative soul.  I made a crochet book cover for my One Day At A Time in Al-Anon book.  Its lavender with white trim.  I also made a Blue one with white trim for a lady in my home group and a red one with white trim for anyone who wants it. 

If no one has told you they love you today, I love you and God does too!


Let’s break down step 2.

Step 2 –  Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity

Today I am going to work on the word that stands out to me, “restore”

re·store  (r-stôr, -str)

tr.v. re·stored, re·stor·ing, re·stores

1. To bring back into existence or use; reestablish: restore law and order.
2. To bring back to an original condition: restore a building. See Synonyms at revive.
3. To put (someone) back in a former position: restore the emperor to the throne.
4. To make restitution of; give back: restore the stolen funds.

To me restore means to bring it back to is intended beauty. So I asked my higher power to restore me to my intended state of sanity.  What is sane to me might not be the same for you, and what was my state of being crazy, might not seem crazy to you.  But that is what makes us who we are.  We are all different and all have our own needs, what binds us together is our unity and the want for sobriety and serenity.  AA, Al-Anon, Alateen and the rest of the 12 steps groups all rely on unity.


If no one has told you they love you today, I love you and God does too!

It seems I really do have some readers.  I had two comments from people I don’t even know and a few of my polls have at least 1 answer on them.  I am feeling fantastic, empowered, ready to take on the day and ready to work on the Al-anon steps.  I must take them one at a time.  There is no way to do this all at once.  ok – so here we go!!

Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

What word stands out to you?  The word that stands out to me is Powerless.  “what do you mean I am powerless, I can take on the world.”  This was what I thought when I looked over the steps the first time.  My husband had been in AA for about 3 months and I was not interested in going to any meetings or learning about why he drank and blah blah blah – well boy oh boy was I in for a surprise.  I was sitting there in his AA meeting listening to all the stories and what was being read from The Big Book.  Then like a knowlage baseball bat hit me in the head, my light bulb went off.  Oh my God, this was also about me!  I had just as bad of an issue with the alcohol as he did.  I was powerless over the alcohol.  I could not stop him from drinking, I could pour it out but he would just go get more.  I could yell, scream and beg – but he would go right back to it cause now he was upset or angry.  Yes – I am powerless over alcohol and my life had become unmanageable.  Now what do I do?  How do I move on from this point?  After hearing the stories in  my home group about how they all found step one I realized something, until you get step one, this will not really take hold into your brain.  Going through the motions and coming to meetings is helpful, but unless you admit it to yourself and your higher power, you will not get it.

I have a feeling that like the other poeple in my home group, the first three steps are gonna be my 1 -2 – 3 dance.

Think of it as the cha cha.  1, 2, ,3 cha cha cha… 1, 2, 3, admit, believe, decide.

This being the first month of the year I will be going over more about step one and admitting I am powerless.

My Second Al-Anon meeting…12-29-11

I leave there with such a good feeling.  It’s like nothing I felt before.  We have fun, we laugh, we share stories and we bond.  My Al-Anon family has become a very important part of my week.  They keep talking to me about finding a sponsor *sigh* not sure how to even go about asking for one.  I would kinda like the lady who runs our meetings to be my sponsor, but not sure how she would feel about that.  My husband doesn’t have a sponsor yet either, I am not sure he knows how to go about getting one either.  It seems I have to be the one to ask the other person, sometimes I wish they would just come up to me – hey I want to be your sponsor.  But like so many other things in life you have to take the bull by the horns as they say.  I got a little sticker/bookmark from a lady in my group.  I was telling a story about how my grandmother is going through a hard time with her husband who has been a bad drinker and now has dementia because of it.  Her guilt is preventing her from taking him to a home.  She can not take care of him like he needs to be and he yells at her all the time.  She is sad and stressed and I don’t like it one bit.  But anyways, a lady in my group passed on to me a little sticker that says “Screw Guilt”  I love it!!  I let go of my guilt over Bryan’s drinking.  It’s in the past, I can’t change it, why stress over it.  I had no control over it, so just LET GO!  Let go and let God!!

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