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Co-dependency – Part 1

This is a 5 part Post on Co-dependency.

Part 1 of 5

Every time I mention to someone that I had a Co-dependency to my husband’s drinking they try to talk me out of thinking that way.  I found a list of patternsto help figure out if the co-dependency is there.  I was a little amazed looking through the list.  I had a few of these patterns, OK more like a lot of these patterns.

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Denial patterns:

  • I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
  • I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.
  • I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.
  • I lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
  • I label others with my negative traits.
  • I can take care of myself without any help from others.
  • I mask my pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.
  • I express negativity or aggression in indirect and passive ways.
  • I do not recognize the unavailability of those people to whom I am attracted.

I can say that I would try to hide my pain and I would isolate myself and then have anger and sadness for being alone.  I would take care of others before ever taking care of myself and didn’t want any help taking care of myself either.  I never wanted to feel helpless or that I needed someone that much.  I sure as heck didn’t want my husband to know the extent of the pain I was in all the time.  I never wanted him to think I was getting sick and then leave me.  I remember him saying a few times to me that my Dad was a strong person being right by my mom through all of her illness and that he is not sure he could do it.  Well hello panic!  I would have anxiety attacks about having to go to the hospital or the Dr for something cause he was going to run at any time, I would think to myself.  So instead I would just spend all of my time taking care of him and make sure he never knew I was in pain.

To be continued…

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I had no idea that withdrawal from alcohol could be this scary.  When my husband was going through it (I was already upset with him so might not have been as compassionate as I probably could have been) it seemed bad but I was not worried about him getting very sick.  Little did I know that alcohol withdrawal syndrome could very well be fatal.

Alcohol withdrawal syndrome is the set of symptoms seen when an individual reduces or stops alcohol consumption after prolonged periods of excessive alcohol intake. Excessive abuse of alcohol leads to tolerance, physical dependence, and an alcohol withdrawal syndrome. The withdrawal syndrome is largely due to the central nervous system being in a hyper-excitable state. Unlike most withdrawals from other drugs, alcohol withdrawal can be fatal. The withdrawal syndrome can include seizures and delirium tremens and may lead to excito-neurotoxicity.

I had two seizures caused by low blood sugar, but while i was going through all the tests to make sure there wasn’t an underlying issue the dr told me that drinking high amounts of alcohol might very well prevent a seizure.  But the next day as you are coming down off the alcohol it can cause a seizure.  He said that since we are a town with a large university, he sees a lot of younger adults who have alcohol related seizures.  So, I already knew that was a possibility.

Some of the symptoms of this withdrawal syndrome can last for up to a year, they call this post acute withdrawal syndrome.  Some of the symptoms of the withdrawal syndrome are:

Although this may seem scary, what you are doing to your body is even more scary than this.  If you have been drinking to the point of sever damage to your heath, you might need medical assistance during the time you are trying to sober up.  I am so very thankful that my Husband came through most of his withdrawal symptoms alright.  He was very sick for a while and had a problem keeping things down.  he was also very home sick as he was not living at our home during that time.  He is eating well again and doesn’t seem to show many signs of prolonged withdrawals.

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